The Questions You Ask

Life has a funny way of showing you what is meant for you will come to pass even though it puts you through it all, you come out of it like, ah yeah that makes sense now.

A common question I get asked ever since I moved to Nadi is that, how is it being back at work? Please stop asking me that haha! Taking a career break and then getting back into it has not been easy. I am not going to lie. I have been struggling to get back into doing my job. What I have learnt is to take it easy, make those mistakes but don’t give up. I do enjoy what I am able to do for work, and I have amazing people to work with which makes this journey even easier. I had this discussion with someone who said that’s how they felt coming back from maternity leave! So, I guess that makes sense lol!

The other question people ask me is “I thought you were seeing someone last year? We remain friends and I am glad for that. I think maturity is knowing that friendship remains even after attempted dating and knowing that you can rely on that person when the time comes. As of this update, I am still fabulously single. However, I decided to make a conscious choice of finally putting myself out there. This means that when a guy asks me out for a coffee or even dinner, I say sure. For the longest time, I would always dilly dally around it and avoid it. It took me going through the motions to realize, how the hell am I supposed to meet someone if I am not meeting someone!

If you see me post nonsense about dating and low effort men, I have either had a conversation with another girlie that went on a terrible date or it was I that went on a terrible date. Call me old fashioned, but I love a man that leads in all aspects!And girlies, when a guy confirms that this is just a hookup…believe it and leave it at that. Because trust me, for a second, I got in my head thinking this is awesome, only to realize hang on a minute, this aint gonna be anything let’s be real. (You can go ahead and judge me like the saint you are) Ooo! One more on the dating side of things, what is it with guys that chat you up and speak so much and then just go silent? Did you die? Were you lying about being single? Was your account hacked? Did you get scared of me? Or did you realize I am too fabulous for you? Haha! I mean!

Another famous comment/question is you are always so put together! Blame my mother! Or credit to her. Growing up in New Zealand as a chubby dark-skinned girl, meant I was bullied and so my mom made extra effort putting me in cute outfits and hairclips and clip on earrings. I guess seeing how she dressed herself according to her body, shaped the way I see fashion and styling. Something that my two sisters also are good at I reckon. My younger sister has also been an inspiration for me as well, and I have taken a few pages out of her styling hacks including stealing some of her clothes, thanks sis!

How do you do it? You are so active? Guys, I have a disorder called “try it all” even if I hate it! Life is too short to be stuck doing the same things and not even trying. The other is, I want to stay fit and in good shape, I alone am responsible for myself and looking after myself. They say, what doesn’t kill you make you stronger right?

Drink? So last year I had given up alcohol and only did consume when I traveled. My tolerance levels are low and I now stick to one (or two) or none. I no longer crave or want to drink to die or make drinking my whole personality. Shout out to my gang gang crew though, who I have shared an epic evening of debauchery! Please don’t get together without me!

Ok so that’s all for now. And yes, I will tryyyy my best to update my blog and vlogs. Grateful that many of you still ask me and remind me about it. I just get caught up in everything else but I am so glad to know that you are still here, reading this, watching me fail, cry, laugh, win and be a clown through it all!

If you have any stories to share around any of the above, I’d love to hear from you!

Big love and big audacity to live it up! X